6 Ways to Break Free from Trauma Bonding

Why can’t I leave?

This is a question that Maya often asked herself. She had left twice, but returned each time. She knew it wasn’t good for her. But she couldn’t help it, not because things got better but because something inside believed love is enduring pain.

It sounds familiar right? But you are not alone.

Trauma bond is a complex emotional attachment that is formed between an abuser and the victim. These unhealthy connections can occur in different types of relationships: Love relationships, families, friendships, and even professional relationships between a boss and an employee, this can be quite shocking. But it happens.

The signs can be subtle but the bonds are difficult to break and it starts from strong emotional connections such as dependency, fear, loyalty, and a heightened sense of vulnerability towards the abuser.

But you can heal from a trauma bond and gain your power again and it begins with acknowledging that you are in an unhealthy relationship, seek external help from professionals, and follow self-discovered strategies that can promote recovery.

In this article, we’ll dive into six ways to break free from trauma bonds.

Six Ways To Break Free From Trauma Bond

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Acceptance and Self-education

One step to breaking free from trauma bonding is acceptance. When you begin to live in reality and acknowledge that you are in an unhealthy place then you have begun your journey towards freedom.

Acceptance brings clarity and it opens your eyes to the realization of the things that are going on in your life. It allows you to face situations as they are and then you can begin to free yourself from unnecessary emotional struggle and gain a clearer perspective.

Additionally, self-education helps you recognize patterns of abusers such as manipulation, gaslighting, and control. You understand your emotions and make informed decisions, which is a great step to your freedom.

Seek professional help

Breaking free from trauma bonds can be very challenging. Which  is why it is crucial to seek help from a professional who will guide you through all the necessary steps that you need in your journey to healing.

A counselor would also offer motivation and emotional support throughout this difficult process. One benefit of having professionals on your side is that they can be your mentor who would direct you as you navigate through life.

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Prioritize yourself

Putting yourself first and knowing that you matter is another way to break free from the trauma bond. When you prioritize yourself first you will begin to realize that you are important and would want to naturally stay away from things that cause you any form of damage.

Self-priority will help you to protect yourself from everything or anything that causes you pain including your loved one. It would teach you the ability to let go and set boundaries and this is a great step to healing.

Prioritizing oneself is not selfish, it is an act of self-love and a powerful step in your recovery journey.

Develop yourself

Focusing on personal development is a vital step to healing from trauma bonds.  When you begin to  set new challenging tasks for yourself, it can help you take your mind off the things that are hurting and set a good adventurous spirit in you.

During this stage of getting your healing, learning new skills, and actively engaging in it,  would open you to self-discovery and you would begin to see yourself in a new different light.

Who knows your hidden Isaac Newton might be discovered.

Self-development is a good step to take during this period.

Keep yourself from everything that messes with your emotions- Pinterest @ Amelia 

Build boundaries

If you want to heal from a trauma bond? Set boundaries. Block every avenue through which pain reaches you, end harmful conversations, and cut off from anyone who makes you feel unhappy.

Remember prioritizing yourself is important so endeavor to let go of every relationship that brings you emotional distress. Building boundaries will help protect you from these triggers and create space for healing.  Which in time gets you your freedom.

Breaking the Cycle of Conflict

Trauma bonds often thrive on internal conflicts such as self-blame, excusing the abuser’s behavior, or seeking reasons for their actions. It’s important to understand that an abuser will never take accountability for their behavior. Instead, they manipulate situations to diminish your self-worth, causing you to doubt your instincts and reality.

To break this cycle:

•  Stop self-blame: Understand that the abuse is a reflection of their actions, not their worth.

• Recognize their behavior: Abusers are unlikely to change unless they take full responsibility. Stop trying to “fix” them; this will only drain your energy.

• Focus on clarity: Seeing them for who they truly are helps you reclaim your power and set boundaries.

By recognizing these dynamics, you can protect yourself from emotional entanglements and begin to rebuild confidence in yourself.

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